Are you wondering if your hostile, aggressive, accusatory, critical, self-centered partner might be a narcissist or have narcissistic traits? And it gets so confusing because sometimes he/she is the most loving, centered, caring, generous, sexy, stable, and sweetest person on the planet, and you are confused, wondering if he/she REALLY is a narcissist or just having some bad times? Well, my dears, that person is both people. He/she is a narcissist. That is what a narcissist is. Both people. Yes, you will have to wrap your head around that. The very person who is wonderful, empathic and attentive is the same person who is hostile, critical, cruel, volatile, emotionally abusive, keeps you from socializing without him/her as much as possible with convincing reasons why, and is abusive to you, lacking the capacity of real love but genius at impersonating it. If this person also has histrionic attributes, you are really in for the ride of your life. Still confused? Ask yourself one more question…Do you and often others consider you an empathic person? A person with a moral compass? A spiritual being? A generally “good” soul? Sensitive to the needs of animals, especially companion animals? If you answered yes, YOU are who a narcissist preys on. See, the narc has to fuel its evil and the only way it can be fueled is by action but not just regular normal actions, the action of tearing an empath to pieces and making them say and have evil reactions. Once they get you there they have leveled you and won in their sick minds, and proven their superiority to themselves. When that happens, the evil is satisfied and filled up until the fuel starts running low again (the narc has not gotten enough attention, and compliments from people lately) and its time to fuel up again. Get ready for their next episode. Sure, your first reaction might be…omg this can’t be right! How could I end up with a narc? Not me? I’m so intelligent. I’m so smart. I am such a nice person. I help people. This can’t be right. I’m such a great communicator! Ahh the good communicator — the especially big prize for narcevil. I’m very sorry but all those traits are what feed the narc. The narcevil needs fueled and those traits are its fuel. I have much more to say about this. Stay tuned…

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